I found love again after being crushed at the unexpected collapse of my marriage

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First of all, I’d like to thank Vicki and Selina for the amazing course that they’ve created. It has been such a unique experience, although my journey on self-love is not complete yet, I’ve come so far with their help and with the help of the Love Zone - our FB group.

I joined the course in May 2017, after my friend persuaded me to. I was crushed by the unexpected collapse of my marriage and to be honest, has little faith that things ever change for the better.

With every next lesson, I’ve discovered that I can just let myself be, accept my feelings, take care of myself better, and gradually started to enjoy my own company.

The concept of self-love, previously alien, now made so much sense. I felt complete just being myself, and it has manifested in my dating life.

I met my current partner on a second Tinder date. I went to that date with an open mind, excited and thinking “let’s see how it goes”. I could feel my own happy vibes as I felt confident, content and curious. Pre-GRFL I would try too hard to be liked, wouldn’t dare to just be myself, and definitely wouldn’t enjoy dating that much.

We spent 4 hours talking and 2 hours kissing that night.

He’s not my “type” and I’m so happy I did let go of my list “what a man should be”. I just kept kind and loyal on that list.

It’s been just over 9 months now, we both still finalising our divorces and it’s challenging, but I’ve never felt so alive and happy before. It took a lot of work, and it was very difficult to recognise some of the old patterns and let them go too. Now I’m just happy to be me and excited about the future while enjoying the present.

The lessons learned throughout the course... self-love is not a luxury, not something to do if you have five minutes left at the end of the day or even next weekend. It’s a necessity, something to be practised every day. Only by giving ourselves love and respect can we attract the same from others.

Another lesson for me, which came later and may sound a bit obvious - but being in a relationship doesn’t mean to let go of self-love, we can’t just sit there and expect another person to do the job for us if we don’t keep it up.

So thank you again Vicki and Selina.

x Irina
— Irina

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I’ve never felt so happy, so close to my true self, nor so free.

I came to Project Love initially to welcome a man into my life and get through heartbreak. The process was uplifting, joyful, painful, beautiful, ugly and ultimately the start of my journey to self love. It also started my journey to designing a life that I loved.

I quit my job, went to Nicaragua for a month. Came home, did a yoga teacher training course just for my practice but have ended up teaching a little. I still contract in finance for the money, but I am on my way to getting to my end goal.

Project love has taught me how to make space in my life to welcome all the great adventures that the universe has to share. I’ve never felt so happy, so close to my true self, nor so free. My story of love is falling in love with myself. A cliche? Hell yes. It’s not an original thought, the concept has been around since the beginning of time. For.a.reason. Happiness is there if you want it. You just need to woman up and grab it.

I believe the man will come when he is ready to join the fun.

All my love to Selina and Vicki for putting me on this rollercoaster of hooting, laughing and screaming go faster
— PJ

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