Ep 6 Life in Lockdown Series | Managing the emotional rollercoaster of the past few weeks

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Hi lovely,

I hope you are well and making your self-care a top priority at the moment. These past few weeks have been another huge historic moment in our lives and one big global emotional rollercoaster, the likes of which most of us have never experienced before in our lifetime. From grief, to pain, to trauma, to anger, to shame, to guilt - there are a lot of big heavy emotions going on collectively as the anti-racism movement rises up and takes centre stage in our lives. And so this week on the podcast we wanted to talk about that. About how to navigate these times of big emotions - from grief, to anger, to shame, the tools that we’ve been using ourselves and of course the all important topic of active anti-racism and collective healing. 

We hope that this episode helps you to take a deep breath, slow things down and remember what you need right now to help you to grieve, heal, release your shame, whatever it may be. Use those tools.

And below you’ll find a list of the people and resources we mention in the podcast episode.

Sending you huge amounts of love, 

Selina & Vicki

@donnalancs 

Love(d) 

House Gospel Choir / Their single Blind Faith

Black anti-racism educators to follow:

Nova Reid (Conversations with Nova Reid)

Layla Saad 

Rachel Cargle

Ep 5 Life in Lockdown Series | Anti-racism and Lessons from lockdown

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Hello lovely,

It has been a heavy few weeks in the world and when we recorded this on Monday we were really feeling it. 

Our plan was to talk about looking to the future and the positive lessons we’ve learnt during lockdown that we want to carry through as we emerge from it step by step, but when it came to recording, all we wanted to talk about was anti-racism and in particular what we are doing as white women to commit to doing anti-racism work, not just something we dip in and out of, but something we remain firmly committed to on a daily basis, for life. 

We share what we’re doing right now to be actively anti-racist and what we are committed to doing from now on. 

If you are white and wondering what you can do, then the key is to listen to the lived experience of black and brown people and never stop listening. Follow black and brown educators but rather than popping into their DMs to ask them to educate you for free, buy their courses and their books. Do the work to shine a light on your own inner racism. We all have it, particularly if we think we don’t. This is an inside outside job as all great transformations are. Breathe through the shame and discomfort that will inevitably bubble up. Welcome it. 

Here are the resources, books and black anti-racism educators we mention. 

Nova Reid - an anti-racism campaigner, educator and writer, has been on the podcast to talk to Selina twice about anti racism - those episodes are here and here. But in particular we recommend you follow Nova on Instagram NovaReidOfficial, listen to her own new podcast ‘Conversations with Nova Reid’ and do her anti-racism course. 

We also recommend the book ‘Me and White Supremacy’ by Layla Saad and Reni Eddo Lodge’s book ‘Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race’. Here is the Instagram post that we mentioned from Pandora Sykes on book recommendations and Jolyon Rubinstein’s Instagram is another one to check out. Also check out our friends at @housegospelchoir for messages of hope, strength and unity and healing music to lift your spirits. 

Second part of the episode: Life in Lockdown - Lessons Learnt

As lockdown starts to ease in many parts of the UK, we wanted to take a moment to reflect on some of the positive lessons that we’ve learnt during this time and some of the new habits and rituals that we’ve been cultivating. 

As you listen to this episode, we invite you to have a think of your own lessons from lockdown. Perhaps there are some new ways of living and working that you’d like to bring into your life post-lockdown? 

For both of us, we’ve been appreciating the simplicity and slower pace of life and plan to maintain that as we move forward. And if there is one thing that we’re excited about returning to post lockdown, it is most definitely HUGS and spending quality time with loved ones. 

Sending you a big hug from both of us 😍

We hope you enjoy the episode.

Love, Vicki and Selina xxx

EP 93: Navigating a world of microaggressions and hidden racism with Nova Reid

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Dear Listener,

I’ve got Nova Reid back on the podcast this week diving deep into the topic of anti-racism. 

Nova is an anti-racism campaigner, diversity consultant, TEDX speaker,  writer, director of the documentary ‘Other’ and creator of the amazing ‘Anti-racism and White Privilege course’. She runs diversity and anti-racism training and workshops for companies that want to proactively address systemic racism and create a safe space for people of every colour to work in. Her anti-racism online course has honestly changed my life. And she recently did an incredibly powerful and courageous TED Talk on microaggressions and how to use white privilege to dismantle racism. 

Nova and I recorded an episode on racism about eight months ago. It was incredibly powerful. And if you are white and new to the topic of systemic racism and white privilege, then I really encourage you to listen to our first episode that we did back in the summer. It will help you to understand why this conversation can be so triggering and how to breathe through it and simply listen. 

The reason we came back to talk more about anti-racism is because we need to keep talking about it and because we wanted to dive into the all important  topic of microaggressions - the little things white people (often the well-meaning, kind-hearted white people) do that make black and brown people feel immediately ‘othered’.

So in this episode we talk about:

• What microaggressions are and Nova shares the impact of being on the receiving end of them 

• What white people can do to become aware of the daily microaggressions that are happening around them and how to catch their own micro aggression moments.  

• What black and brown people can do when they are on the receiving end of a micro-aggression 

• How white people can proactively create a safe space (at work and at home, among friends and family) where microaggressions can be talked about, acknowledged 

• And the simple but incredibly powerful act of white people saying ‘sorry’ when it happens 

This is an incredibly important conversation that we need to keep having. It’s not always an easy conversation for anyone to have, so thank you for listening and being a part of it. We’ll be carrying on the conversation over on instagram @loveprojectlove and @novareid.

And for more from Nova, head on over to https://novareid.com/, follow her on @novareid on instagram and sign up to her White Privilege course. Be part of the change. You’ll never regret it.

X Selina

EP 73: A powerful conversation about race, racism and white privilege with Nova Reid

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Selina here and I am SOOOO excited for you to listen to the podcast episode we have for you today.

I truly believe is one of the most important podcast episodes I have ever recorded.

I was joined by the amazing Nova Reid to dive deep into conversation about race, white privilege and what I can do as a white woman to play a proactive role in dismantling racism.

Nova Reid is a diversity campaigner, anti-racism educator and founder of Nu Bride and is passionate about helping people push through fear, lead by example and be the change they want to see in the world. And I am completely in love and in awe of her. Through her work she is hit by online racist attacks on a daily basis and yet she continues to meet the world with love, courage and an unwavering belief that we CAN be the change.

I’ve been doing Nova’s ‘White Privilege’ anti-racism course since December and I have found it to be SUCH a powerful course. I once felt totally powerless when it came to racism and inequality. I had no idea what, as a white person, I could do or was supposed to do.

Now with this course I know exactly what I can do. Nova has given me the tools and guidance to help me do real work. And wow, is the work deep and powerful.

I am now full of hope and excitement at what can happen if more and more white people stand up and do this work too. Which is what this episode is all about.

I can’t wait for you to tune in!

And if you are white, my invitation to you is to come and do Nova’s ‘White Privilege’ course. Let’s do this work together! And Nova, being the generous beauty that she is, is offering Project Love listeners a 15% discount if you sign up before 13th July.

>> SIGN UP TO THE ‘WHITE PRIVILEGE' ANTI-RACISM COURSE HERE

x Selina