Ep 103: Getting used to living a new ‘normal’

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Hi lovely,

We are back after a one month break and the world is still feeling weird. Here in the UK, while we’re not in full lockdown anymore, things have certainly not returned to normal, but then, as Edward Enninful, editor of UK Vogue says in his brilliant editor’s letter for the August issue (mentioned in this week’s episode) ‘there is no normal to return to’.

And so we feel it’s important to not try to normalise this new way of living, but to keep addressing the challenges of living in the shadow of a global pandemic, while also continuing to look at the unexpected opportunities that have come with these unprecedented times. 

And so that is what we’re doing in this week’s episode: exploring how we are adjusting to living a life that isn’t like the life we were once all living. And how we are continuing to find opportunities for growth, learning, fun and adventure in amongst it all.

Project Love Coaching Programmes - doors now open!

We have been LOVING coaching over the past few months. This is a time so ripe for change - people just seem ready for it. And we are opening up our doors again to take on new clients. Selina has spaces on her two Career Coaching programmes starting this month and Vicki has spaces on her Love Coaching programme starting in September. 

If you’re ready to transform your career or love life, then we are ready to take you on that journey. Come and book in a discovery call!

Find out about the Get Ready for Love Coaching programme and book in a discovery call with Vicki. 

Find out about the 3 Month Career Change Coaching programme or 6 Week Career Change (or Business Kickstart) Coaching programme and book in a discovery call with Selina.

X Selina & Vicki 

Ep 6 Life in Lockdown Series | Managing the emotional rollercoaster of the past few weeks

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Hi lovely,

I hope you are well and making your self-care a top priority at the moment. These past few weeks have been another huge historic moment in our lives and one big global emotional rollercoaster, the likes of which most of us have never experienced before in our lifetime. From grief, to pain, to trauma, to anger, to shame, to guilt - there are a lot of big heavy emotions going on collectively as the anti-racism movement rises up and takes centre stage in our lives. And so this week on the podcast we wanted to talk about that. About how to navigate these times of big emotions - from grief, to anger, to shame, the tools that we’ve been using ourselves and of course the all important topic of active anti-racism and collective healing. 

We hope that this episode helps you to take a deep breath, slow things down and remember what you need right now to help you to grieve, heal, release your shame, whatever it may be. Use those tools.

And below you’ll find a list of the people and resources we mention in the podcast episode.

Sending you huge amounts of love, 

Selina & Vicki

@donnalancs 

Love(d) 

House Gospel Choir / Their single Blind Faith

Black anti-racism educators to follow:

Nova Reid (Conversations with Nova Reid)

Layla Saad 

Rachel Cargle

Ep 5 Life in Lockdown Series | Anti-racism and Lessons from lockdown

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Hello lovely,

It has been a heavy few weeks in the world and when we recorded this on Monday we were really feeling it. 

Our plan was to talk about looking to the future and the positive lessons we’ve learnt during lockdown that we want to carry through as we emerge from it step by step, but when it came to recording, all we wanted to talk about was anti-racism and in particular what we are doing as white women to commit to doing anti-racism work, not just something we dip in and out of, but something we remain firmly committed to on a daily basis, for life. 

We share what we’re doing right now to be actively anti-racist and what we are committed to doing from now on. 

If you are white and wondering what you can do, then the key is to listen to the lived experience of black and brown people and never stop listening. Follow black and brown educators but rather than popping into their DMs to ask them to educate you for free, buy their courses and their books. Do the work to shine a light on your own inner racism. We all have it, particularly if we think we don’t. This is an inside outside job as all great transformations are. Breathe through the shame and discomfort that will inevitably bubble up. Welcome it. 

Here are the resources, books and black anti-racism educators we mention. 

Nova Reid - an anti-racism campaigner, educator and writer, has been on the podcast to talk to Selina twice about anti racism - those episodes are here and here. But in particular we recommend you follow Nova on Instagram NovaReidOfficial, listen to her own new podcast ‘Conversations with Nova Reid’ and do her anti-racism course. 

We also recommend the book ‘Me and White Supremacy’ by Layla Saad and Reni Eddo Lodge’s book ‘Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race’. Here is the Instagram post that we mentioned from Pandora Sykes on book recommendations and Jolyon Rubinstein’s Instagram is another one to check out. Also check out our friends at @housegospelchoir for messages of hope, strength and unity and healing music to lift your spirits. 

Second part of the episode: Life in Lockdown - Lessons Learnt

As lockdown starts to ease in many parts of the UK, we wanted to take a moment to reflect on some of the positive lessons that we’ve learnt during this time and some of the new habits and rituals that we’ve been cultivating. 

As you listen to this episode, we invite you to have a think of your own lessons from lockdown. Perhaps there are some new ways of living and working that you’d like to bring into your life post-lockdown? 

For both of us, we’ve been appreciating the simplicity and slower pace of life and plan to maintain that as we move forward. And if there is one thing that we’re excited about returning to post lockdown, it is most definitely HUGS and spending quality time with loved ones. 

Sending you a big hug from both of us 😍

We hope you enjoy the episode.

Love, Vicki and Selina xxx

Ep 4 Life in Lockdown Series | Practising Self-Love

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Hi lovelies,

We have another episode for you in our series on Life in Lockdown and this week we're talking about how to practice self-love. We loved recording this episode (we always do when it comes to talking about self-love) and it is jam-packed with laughter and giggles. 

So if you'd like an episode to lift your spirits and get you giggling along with us while we explore how to practice self-love during lockdown (and in general) then this one is for you!

x Selina & Vicki 

Ep 3 Life in Lockdown Series | Working from Home

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Hi lovely, how are you doing?

We are back with another podcast episode for you from our ‘Life in Lockdown’ series. 

With the boundary between work and home now feeling so blurred, we thought we would dedicate this week’s episode to working from home during lockdown. 

In this episode, we talk about:

• Our own experiences of working from home during lockdown and how we have been adapting 

• Productivity tips to help you to focus (particularly if you have a tendency to procrastinate!)

• The importance of creating healthy boundaries between work and home 

• Rituals to help you to get ready for the working day and tips on how to stay energised and in flow 

• Tips on how to transition out of work mode, to unwind, de-stress and renew your energy after your working day 

• And much more!

What would you like to hear us talk about next in this ‘Life in Lockdown’ series?

While we’ve been recording this ‘Life in Lockdown’ series we’ve really enjoyed how many of you have been engaging with us and joining in the conversation to share how you’ve been feeling. So we wanted to offer you the opportunity to tell us what you would like to hear us talk about next in the series. We would love to hear from you.

We really hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did recording it.

Project Love weekly love-ins 

We are still holding our free Monday lunchtime love-ins (1-2pm BST) on Zoom where we all come together and check-in with each other. It really is a gorgeous time filled with love and support and always sets us up for the week ahead. And as always, Vicki will be leading us through some EFT/Tapping to help us to start the week feeling calm and at ease. Here is the link to join 🤗

Lots of love,

X Selina & Vicki

Ep 2 Life in Lockdown | Dating in Lockdown

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Hi lovelies,

How are you doing?

Here in the UK we are still in lockdown and it’s now been over 50 days. Phewf. If you missed it last week, we are back with our weekly podcast and while the lockdown continues in the UK, each weekly podcast episode will be focused on ‘Life in Lockdown’.

In last week’s episode we shared our own experiences of living in lockdown and how we were juggling working from home while sharing the space with partners, pets and kids, plus some of the topics that have been coming out of our weekly online Project Love LOVE-INs that we’ve been running every Monday, over on Zoom, since the lockdown began in the UK (have you joined us for one yet? They’re free and like one gorgeous group hug - head over here to find out more and sign up to join the next one!).

Now, this week we’re talking about dating during lockdown. Believe it or not it is a great time to be dating! Vicki shares how her clients have been finding that dating during lockdown has actually opened up the opportunity for more connectedness, playfulness and more meaningful conversations. Whether you’re using dating sites or dating apps, we talk about how people are finding creative ways to go on dates via Zoom and the love stories that are emerging out of this crazy lockdown period. 

So whether you’re dating or you just love hearing about love stories, head on over to wherever you listen to your podcasts and tune in!

You can also listen over on our website here: 

And if you are wanting some support and guidance on your dating journey then Vicki has just opened up a couple of spaces on the The Get Ready for Love coaching programme (starting in June). This is such a special journey, where you have Vicki as your personal love coach and dating wingwoman for 3 months. I was Vicki’s first love coaching client and I cannot recommend her coaching enough! Simply head over here for all of the details and to book in your discovery call!  💕

X Selina & Vicki

Ep 1 Life in Lockdown Series

Hello lovelies,

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We hope you and your loved ones are safe and well 💗

After a one month break, we are delighted to be back on the podcast (yay!!) and we’ve decided to dedicate our weekly episodes to living life during lockdown. Each week, we will talk about how we are navigating this new way of living and working, focusing on a different topic each time - from dating, working from home and relationships, to managing the emotional rollercoaster of lockdown and everything in between.

In this first episode, recorded on day 42 of lockdown (!), we talk about:

• Our own experience of lockdown, our discoveries so far and the positive lessons we have been learning along the way.

• The new Saturday night ritual that has been lifting our spirits!

• The importance of kindness and compassion during this time of uncertainty 

• Our tips on releasing anxiety (IGTV videos to the EFT/Tapping videos that we mention can be found over here) 

• Creativity and the positive benefits of taking time to pause, reflect and go inwards during this time.

• And much more!

We really hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did recording it 😍

Project Love weekly love-ins 

Every Monday lunchtime (1-2pm BST) during lockdown, we have been holding weekly love-ins on Zoom for us all to gather together and check-in with one another and exchange tips on how to navigate life in a time of Coronavirus. They are absolutely gorgeous (and totally free). Come along for a virtual hug from us, connect with a loving and supportive community and receive some EFT/Tapping to get you ready for the week ahead. Here is the link to join 🤗

Love always,

X Selina & Vicki